Many of us have heard it before:
“I called you and you didn’t answer”
“Why didn’t you pick up the phone?”
“I called but you didn’t pickup so I assumed you were busy.”
“I called but I couldn’t reach you I assumed you didn’t love me anymore and we’re not together”
Whoa Nelly! Hold the phone! What? I wasn’t at your beck and call when you happened to decide that to call and you’re upset? Friends, am I allowed to shower? Or swim in the ocean, or simply be without my phone?
Phone etiquette V deals with not assuming that just because the person did not answer your call, that it is a personal attack on you. I once knew a woman who would not return anyone’s calls for hours and many times days on end. But then, as though the World spun on its axis only for her, she would become flustered when the person did not pick up when she found it convenient for her to call. The same girl would arrive 30 to 60 minutes late to her appointments but then be very upset and on the verge of walking out if she wasn’t tended to immediately.
Naturally this is the same kind of person who doesn’t leave a voicemail and is guilty of breaking more phone etiquette.
When calling people on the phone, give them the benefit of the doubt. Don’t cancel plans, make other arrangements or decide to believe something about them simply based on their inability to not answer the phone. This is poor form. Trust that if you leave a message the person will call you back. If it’s super urgent, call, leave a message and then follow it with an important text.